So I want to talk to all of those individuals who think that foster parents do it for the money. I remember when I was younger I heard older individuals complain about certain people who were foster parents and how they were only doing it for the money. I saw families when I in High School who were fostering full time and I wondered how they were able to do that and again people would say, “They are only doing it for the money.”
I have always wanted to adopt and foster. Even when we first got married we did not think we would be able to have biological kids and began looking into fostering, until we got pregnant. I’m here to tell you that fostering is not all about the money.
For anyone who wants to know, the going rate for a regular foster child per day is $23.50 in the state of Texas. Putting said child in day care at at a rate of $22.00 a day knocks out all of that money. It takes almost 2 weeks for the workforce commission to get a child’s daycare subsidy set up. Most of the 17 foster kids we have had were returned home or to a relative within the first two weeks.
Many of the others, it took 2 weeks for the Child Care Services to get on the ball and then two weeks to process it, leaving only about 3 of the 17 actually receiving any kind of foster care paid child care.
USDA website has a Child Budget Calculator that estimates in the United States of America it takes around $32 a day to provide for a child, (Housing, Utilities, Transportation, Child Care and Education, Food, Clothing, Etc). That does not include the emotional and mental expense.
When you look at a foster parent be careful how you judge them. You don’t know their heart. Foster care is not about the small money that is given to off set the cost of raising someone else’s child. It is about the changes that we see.
We have been fostering a low functioning autistic child. He is awesome but very, very hard to handle some times. If it was for the money there would be no way that we could handle him. He has destroyed one sons DS, my daughters nabi, and his emotional outbursts are horrendous.
You might ask, “why do we let him stay, the other three foster placed moved him one, why don’t you.”
Well, here is my answer, when he first moved in with us he was glued to any electronic he could find. There was very little to no verbal skills. He slept on the floor in our room because he could not sleep alone. He could not eat anything. Today he sleeps in his room with the other kids. He can put words together into phases, a little. He talks with words constantly, not just noises. (No conversations yet, but we are working). He does not get on electronics but plays with toys. He has tried several foods and now loves popsicles.
The money for foster care is not worth it, but to see the changes in a child is the only thing that can keep us going.